Secret She-Male Housemaids!
Some wives keep their male maid husbands 'in the closet'!
Yes - they enjoy having a special relationship with a submissive, obedient and feminine partner - but they are ashamed of their pleasure. They even talk about them in the third person!
'We never talk about Alan's role as my housemaid. Instead we talk about 'Alice' as though she is a third-party in our marriage. I only take my pretty she-male servant 'out' on special occasions. When I'm feeling lazy, I say to Alan, 'Please get Alice to do the housework for me.' And he leaves me to 'dress' as a perfect 'maid'. Alice is the perfect housemaid, but not a very good husband. I wouldn't like to have her around all of the time, and I certainly don't want other people to know about her!'
This is a common problem with both male house-maids and their dominant wives. Once a wife has tasted the forbidden fruit of feminization she cannot resist further experimentation. But she also values her 'conventional' marriage. One way of dealing with this paradox is to pretend that the feminized husband is a different person! Someone who can be 'invited' into the family circle or excluded as and when circumstances dictate.
And submissive husbands often prefer this approach to domestic service. As Mitch explains, 'I always felt guilty about 'dressing-up' as a maidservant. I didn't mind serving my wife but the 'morning-after' was particularly traumatic. Waking up and facing my wife after a day as her house-maid is an awful and humiliating experience! It's much better now I can be 'Michelle' - this she-male has her own room with her own uniforms. My wife gives me the day off when she wants her bizarre male maid to serve her. And I reappear as 'Michelle' the housemaid!'
And Doctor Gillian Fairbanks who runs a special advisory centre for role-swapping couples agrees, 'The only negative side-effect of this increasingly common life-style is guilt. The man, despite the fact that this phenomenon is wife-inspired, finds his guilt and shame swamps the desire to please his wife. And the woman believes she has 'robbed' her partner of his natural right to masculinity. These are good and healthy responses - they prove that the couples are still respectful of their 'real-life' roles in society.
My advice is simple. Turn the she-male maid into a different person, a woman they both recognise and accept within their home. Create that secret male maid - and only use her when necessary!'
Unfortunately this approach can be too successful! As Lynn explains, 'I got so used to thinking of John as 'Joan' my maid. I became so happy with this she-male housemaid, I introduced her to my mother!'
We explore this intriguing aspect to male maids and their mistresses!
In The October '99 Issue of Pinafore pages - Men as Maids!
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Reader's experiences plus Confidential Case Histories from Doctor Fairbanks's files!