Submissive Personalities and Penetration!
The submissive individual is like a wind-up doll!
Just waiting to be 'switched' on!
'Such people cannot live in a vacuum - he or she needs a controlling influence.'
- says Doctor Anna Friedal. 'So it is natural for such personalities to seek out, and to attract, domineering partners. The submissive husband, for example, was probably dominated by his mother or an older sister.''Problems occur when a submissive man marries a submissive woman. This usually happens as a result of interference by the 'controlling influence' - normally the mother of one or both parties. This can lead to the 'dominant mother-in-law' syndrome, whereby the husband meekly accepts the 'natural' authority of his wife's mother. As the wife isn't strong enough to 'master' the husband herself; she enlists, or is forced to accept, the assistance of her mother.'
'It was my mother's idea that I marry Jim,'
says Alicia, 'and it was she who insisted on Jim doing the housework. But I'm not a naturally bossy person and I found it difficult to give instructions to my husband. It was only when my mother moved in with us I became more comfortable with Jim's submissive behaviour. With my mother around to provide 'back-up' I have become quite aggressive towards him - both in the bedroom and in the kitchen!'
Of course once a couple agree to being 'trained' by an outsider some form of 'feminization', even if it is only housework in an apron, is inevitable. And the possibility for sexual involvement by the outsider is high.
'I knew that some kind of intimacy was taking place between my mother and my husband,'
admits Kate, 'but you must see it from my point of view. I was able to go out to work whilst Derek and my mother did all of the laundry and housework. They were together for hours at a time and once she had started to 'dress him up' in my old clothes it was inevitable that they'd share a kiss and a cuddle. I turned a blind eye - especially when she trained him to pleasure me.'Penetration, indeed consummation per se, is incredibly symbolic to any relationship. One hundred years ago a wife would submit to the painful indignity of penetration as a sign that she accepted her husband's right to sex. It was only 'voluntary in the sense that it was part of the 'parcel' of marriage. And, significantly, once the marriage had been consummated, she could never in future refuse sex from her husband. Rape within marriage was only outlawed in recent years!
Today a married woman does not 'submit' to penetration, she welcomes it on her own terms and is quite often the initiator of sex. When such a wife meets a sexually submissive husband, there is a real possibility of the woman demanding 'penetration' as her way of consummating their new lifestyle.
'Most of what happened between us was a direct consequence of my insecurity.'
Anna explains, 'He wore an apron in my kitchen to 'prove' he would be 'the housewife'; he wore a silky night-dress in my bed to 'symbolise' our role-swap. But I needed, and demanded, more and more in the way of reassurance. Just wearing that strap-on dildo gave me a newfound confidence. And once I saw that fearful expression his face I knew I had to use it!'And if the wife is not the controlling influence - then we have the bizarre situation whereby a mother-in-law beds her daughter's husband!
'My daughter's husband was competent in the kitchen and totally inadequate in the marriage bed.'
Says Olga, 'feminising him was an act of spite - but - when this actually improved their sex-life I was far too curious to remain an onlooker. I bought the double-ended dildo for Julia, but I was the first to use it on her husband.'